HOW TO FRY EWA AGANYIN STEW
I was actually home alone the first time i tried my hands on this sauce, the whole family went out and i wanted to surprise them with the Ewa Aganyin delicacy. However my efforts turned out to be disastrous..lol, i almost got the kitchen burnt, but now i'm a certified expert of this delicious sauce.
i'll be taking you through the process of preparing  Ewa Aganyin.

For the beans, you need
*2 cups of red beans
*salt to taste
*1 cube of magi

For the ewa aganyi sauce
*1 large white onion bulb (thinly sliced)
*1 cup of palm oil
*seasoning cube
*1 large bell pepper or grinded pepper
*habanero peppers
*dry blended crayfish

Add 6 cups of water to a pot, set on low heat. wash and add the beans. leave on low heat for 2hrs or until the beans is very soft. As in very very soft! To give it dat paste like look.
Add salt to taste.

Sauce: (Agoyin stew)

In a blender, grind the bell pepper, habanero pepper and the half medium onion.. (i blended mine to a coarse texture). Then parboil it to remove excess water from it. But i think most of these agoyin people from togo use dry blended pepper(ata gigun) in making theirs. 
Set a medium sized pot on low heat, add the palm oil.
Bleach the oil for long till it becomes clear, (note!: ur kitchen might get smoky!)
Turn the heat to minimum, add the sliced onion, stir at interval until the onion is caramelized (the color should be
almost black but not burnt)..
Then add the parboiled pepper to the fried onion in d bleached oil, fry it for about 15mins.
Add in the 'scattered' smoked fish, salt and seasoning. If u like crayfish in ur stew, dis is the time to add it. (note dat the few times i ate the original togolese ewa agoyin, they did not put anything in the stew like fish or what have you.)
Taste for seasoning and salt.
keep frying d stew on medium heat for another 10mins..or longer until its gets very dark in colour and gets dats crunchy taste..just like d agoyin stew.
Serve on beans
EnJOY.

KEEPING ROMANCE ALIVE

How do you keep romance alive? If there's a special person in your life, you know how important good communication is to staying close and keeping the fires of passion burning. Good communication skills are essential, whether you've been together for two months or 32 years.

Psychologists stay that the intoxicating feeling of being in love lasts only about 18 months to three years at most; however, a study conducted by psychologist Bianca Acevedo and biological anthropologist Helen Fisher found that it's possible to keep love alive in a long-term relationship. When the brains of a group of people in their fifties, who had been married an average of 21 years, were scanned after looking at a photo of their partner, they showed the same level of activity as young lovers who had been together for an average of seven months. There was one important difference, however: Among the older lovers, the brain regions associated with anxiety were no longer active; there was more activity in the areas associated with calmness [source: Fisher]

Other studies have proven that a good relationship offers medical benefits of lower stress levels, reduced risk of Alzheimer's, and even improves cancer survival rates.

While there's no arguing the benefits of being in a happy relationship, how can you get -- and stay -- connected? Try these communication tips for romantic relationships and get closer to your loved one.

Spending quality time together- as time goes by, demanding assignments, different hobbies and other obligations can make it hard to find time together with your loved ones. its critical for your relationship. if you don't have quality time together, communication and understanding start to erode.

Find something that you enjoy doing together- whether it is a shared hobby, dance routine, daily walk , sitting over a cup of coffee, if it brings you to close communication range, you should go for it.

Make a habit of laughing together whenever you can-most situations are not as bleak as they appear to be when you approach them with humor.

Learn your partners emotional cues-each of us is a little different how we receive information. some people might respond better to sight,sound or touch. your partners responses may be different from yours . take some time to learn your partners cue, and be sure to communicate your own as well. For example, one person might find a brief massage after a stressful day a loving mode of communication-while another might just want to talk over a hot cup of tea.

Practice give and take- if you expect to get what you want 100% of a time in a relationship, you are setting yourself up for disappointment. healthy relationships are built on compromise, and it takes work on each others part to make sure that there is a reasonable exchange.

TIPS ON HOW TO SPARK UP YOUR RELATIONSHIP
    A strong healthy relationship can be one of the best support in your life. Good relationships improves all aspect of your life, strengthening your health , your mind, and your connection with others. However if the relationship isn't working, it can also be a serious drain. Relationships are an investment, the more you put in, the more you can get back. these tips can help keep a healthy relationship strong , or repair trust and love in a relationship on the rocks.

Staying involved with each other- some relationships can get stuck in peaceful co-existence, but without truly relating to each other and working together . while it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. when you need to talk about something important , the connection and understanding may no longer be there.

Getting through conflict- the key in a strong relationship is not to be fearful of conflict. you need to be
safe to express things that bother you without fear of retaliation, and to be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation , or insisting on being right.

Keeping outside relationships and interests alive - no one person can meet all our needs , and expecting too much from someone can put a lot of unhealthy pressure on a relationship. Having friends and outside interests  not only strengthens your social network, but brings new insights and stimulation to the relationship too.

Keep intimacy alive- studies have shown that affectionate touch actually boosts the body level of oxytocin, a hormone that influences bonding and attachment. in a committed relationship between two partners, physical intercourse is often a cornerstone of the relationship. however, intercourse should not be the only method of physical intimacy in a relationship.

Do you think Olamides 'GUNMAN POSE' is Illuminati?????
    Recently the famous Yoruba rap star unveiled the cover photo for his  YBNL album, and hundreds of fans are in love with Olamide's gun man pose.
    However some fans are of the opinion that the GUNMAN POSE is a  sign of  the occult. What do you think?????

LIVE LOVE and PRAY.

"People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and thats what everyone wants , but a soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life."

"Look for God. Look for God like a man with his head on fire looks for water."

"In desperate love , we always invent the characters of our partners , demanding they be what we need of them , and then feeling devasted when they refuse to perform the role we created in the first place."

"We are miserable because we think that we are mere individuals , alone with our fears and flaws and resentment and morality."

"You need to learn how to select your thought just the same way you select your clothes everyday. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That is the only thing you should be trying to control."

"God is an experience of supreme love."

"There is a reason they call God a presence - because God is right here, right now. In the present is the only place to find him, and now is the only time."

"Learning how to discipline your speech is a way of preventing your energies from spilling out of you through the rupture  of your mouth, exhaustibng you and filling the world with WORDS ,WORDS, WORDS instead of serenity,peace and bliss."